In the early 2360s, she fell in love with Benzan, the son of the ruler of Straleb. So that no one would find out about their forbidden relationship, they used Thadiun Okona, a transport captain, to deliver messages back and forth. The two "star-crossed lovers" relationship eventually led to Yanar becoming pregnant. To avoid war, Yanar told her father that the child belonged to Thadiun Okona.
At about the same time, in 2365, Okona's shuttle broke down in space, to be picked up and repaired by the USS Enterprise-D. Her father's ship intercepted the Enterprise-D, and demanded that Okona be handed over to them. The Straleb had already demanded Okona's extradition for stealing the Jewel of Thesia, so Captain Picard decided to hold a meeting between all the parties aboard the Enterprise-D. Yanar and Benzan then decided to tell everyone about their relationship, also revealing that the Jewel of Thesia was in fact a gift from Benzan to Yanar to ask her to marry him, which Benzan did after revealing their history. (TNG: "The Outrageous Okona")